The Way Things Used to Be

It’s often fun to reminisce about the way things used to be.

Looking back on fond memories and experiencing happy moments again and again is one of life’s greatest joys.

Yet in a different context, thinking about how things used to be can subconsciously, or even actively, turn into flat out RESISTANCE to CHANGE.

Or worse, RESENTING your TODAY.

And as much as we may want to take a break from the daily commotion…

…especially changes in routine, like the end of the school year and new summer routine, or

…avoidance of BIG CHANGES like adjusting to a new role or moving to a new city, or

…simply avoiding the first step in the direction of a positive change (like starting a new exercise practice).

But the thing is…

“The only constant in life is change.” – Heraclitus.

Even when we feel anxious about the ambiguity that comes with change (I certainly do at times), we need to remind ourselves of the good that comes with change – growth, a new perspective, and maybe even a reminder of what it feels like to experience childlike wonder.

And if we fail to work with change and to mold our growth in a positive way, things stagnate.

We are often met with relationships that have gone into hibernation, businesses that close their doors, and political upheaval when worldviews don’t evolve when presented with new information.

I needed this reminder the other day.

And I received it in the most unexpected way.

There’s a vacant church around the corner from our home.  I must have driven and walked past it over 1,000 times in the past 2 years.

I don’t know how long it’s been vacant or what the story is with its closing.

But one thing is clear – even churches aren’t immune to the impacts of change.

This church has one of those marquee signs where you manually change the letters – the kind used to highlight a quote or announcement.

And there is this sign…boldly sitting in front of a vacant building and empty and overgrown parking lot, “Church…

the way it used to be.”

Now I’m sure the sign was assembled with good intentions – but what it misses is – all are welcome and the most important thing is love.

I suspect that this sign doesn’t necessarily conjure up fond or even any memories at all for most of the local population as the neighborhood has turned over and is now filled primarily with young families, most of whom did not grow up here.

Change is inevitable. 

Participating in change gives you an opportunity to shape how it unfolds.

Choose to embrace it.

Hold on to what is solid, true and good and modify how you connect, create and deliver.

Because the way it used to be, is often the way that isn’t around anymore.

As I am about to embark on a big change, this was a great reminder to appreciate the joyful memories of how things used to be, while welcoming new opportunities.

Changes are on the horizon.

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