During the hustle and bustle of the holiday season – the parties, the decadent dinners, friends and family in town – there’s a lot to be excited about.
But if we’re honest – really honest – we can all get a little grumpy when we’re out of our elements and off our routines – whether that be work and school schedules, diets, lack of alone time to recharge, sleeping arrangements or bedtimes.
So how do we not just keep things on the rails – but make it a merry train ride as well?
When we have a plan for how to handle situations, we are better at taking them in stride and enjoying them.
When we have a vision and a plan for how we want to feel, it’s more likely to happen.
So to set the tone for the holiday season, I’ve created a holiday manifesto.
It’s basically intentions and rules to live by that align with and guide me toward the vision and feelings I have for the holidays. It helps me choose how I want to feel.
As I wrote it, I thought about a holiday season filled with warmth, smiling familiar faces, feelings of excitement and optimism, specific tastes and smells of the season – a hot cup of cocoa, peppermint, sprigs of evergreen and cinnamon candles – laughter and relaxation.
- The most basic needs served first
- Enthusiasm, enthusiasm, enthusiasm
- If I don’t care; They won’t care. If I care; They might care.
- Reflection and routine
- It’s impossible to overcommunicate.
- Bring good wine
Breaking it down:
The most basic needs served first
Those with the highest needs are served first – typically the youngest and oldest members of the group. Schedules and decisions about when to leave and schedule events will revolve around them. I’ll keep snacks on hand and focus on getting enough sleep.
Enthusiasm, enthusiasm, enthusiasm!
Bring it! When I’m pumped about the spinach dip or the latest Hallmark holiday flick – I’m going to spread the cheer. It’s contagious and the little things that make holidays special to you are often shared and remembered by others, and they’ll share their favs too.
If I don’t care; They won’t care. If I care; They might care.
If I don’t show that I care about something – this includes little things like where to hang coats or when to clean up the dishes – others won’t care about these things either.
So, if I can stomach some extra clutter, no biggie on the coats, but if I want the house organized I need to communicate that I care by example and by saying, “Please leave your coats on the front hall tree.” care about something I will lead by example.
And, even if I do care, others may not share my sentiments, so I need to take it in stride.
Reflection & Routine
With schedules being different over the holidays, I’m making my own holiday routine.
For me, this includes 5 minutes of meditation and reflection time, 20-30 minutes of yoga or a light rowing session each morning to keep me energized and a bowl full of hot oatmeal with a dash of cinnamon.
It’s Impossible to Over Communicate
Reviewing plans and comparing calendars with family and reminder calls to confirm arrangements like meat orders and dinner reservations are in order.
This will minimize mix ups and meltdowns.
Bring Good Wine
Feel a little extra cheer this holiday season.
Create your own holiday manifesto.
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